I wanna run away. Long. :'(
I feel like a bad mom. I am so overwhelmed and part of me just wants to run away. I love my daughter of course! But it is so hard by myself. Bd decided he wanted to move out and do whatever he feels like doing. I am so heartbroken and still trying to figure out how to be a mommy. I am so hurt. We wanted this. We tried so hard to have kids and he just decides he wants a break and to get away. I am literally sick. I haven't been eating very well and I am just so tired. My dr put me on wellbutrin a few weeks ago but since my bf left I am on a whole new level of sadness. I don't know if it is totally working for me. I hate bd. I feel so abandoned. He says he just doesn't want a relationship he hasn't wanted one for awhile. I am so sick. He is still trying to be a part of his daughters life. He comes over to spend a few hours with her sometimes. I don't even look at him. I hand her off and go to my room. I am breastfeeding still and I don't even know where he is staying and she is still so little only a month so he doesn't take her. He just comes and sees her. He has no clue how difficult it is. I hate him with everything in me. I dont even want him in my house. I dont even want to speak to him but I do it for my daughter. I am so hurt. Sometimes I look at my life and regret meeting him. I am so beyond overwhelmed. It makes me feel bad. I love my baby but I wish I had my partner to help me. My mom is helping the most she can but she can't always be there. Not to mention baby girl is so colicky. She just cries and cries when she is awake. I want to stop breastfeeding but have no clue how to transition her. The only thing that calms her down sometimes is my boob. I feel so stuck. I don't know how I am going to get through this.
Comments
@Jules Thank you for your kind words. I keep telling myself it will get better it will get better but it's so hard staying positive. I wish I didn't have to talk to bd. I wish I could just cut him out of my life so I can heal. I just know in his head he is just getting a break away but for me this is the end of us. The only reason I talk to him is so my daughter will know who her father is.
@captivated that's what my dr said. It has been about 3 and a half weeks so I am still giving them a shot. I know they have changed my attitude a little because I am not crying 24/7! But idk if they are what I need. I have never been on an antidepressant so idk how they feel.
@emy I am hoping baby gets out of her colicky stage soon. I know it could take a long time but I know that will help. I know it will help when she smiles and is able to laugh too. She has giggled and smiled in her sleep a few times and for that little minute I am smiling and happy and forget about everything. Its a good feeling. I feel like bd is going to try and come back after he gets whatever it is he needed to get out but I don't want him back I want to have the confidence to say you lost your chance. He has done this a few times to me just up and leaves for a month or so then comes back cuz I always just sit and wait for him. This time it was different he didn't leave just me he left his daughter too. Even though he says he isn't leaving her that he is still there for her but it's not the same him coming over for a few hours a week. He is being a part time dad.
@amab13 Thank you. I haven't heard of colic calm or lavender baths. I'll have to look that up. I started introducing formula to her and got similac sensitive. It says it helps with fussy and gassy babies. I actually have seen a difference since I started it. I know she senses my tension I have been trying so hard it's not easy though.
@MommyLovesSparkle Thanks. I am excited for her to start smiling and laughing. I know it will help me heal seeing her happy.
@jules yeah I do not plan to go out of my way for him anymore. I know I deserve so much better. I just wanna get through this and feel ok.