relationship problems
Not looking for advice per se, just need to get this out of my system.
My bf and I are having problems. He's a hard worker, which I absolutely love and admire of him. And I really do appreciate of him. But he can't stop working. When he's with us, his heads still at work. Well, less with our daughter, but almost always with me. hes had a hard month, changing jobs, his grandfather passing away, but this has just been getting worse for the last six months. I finally talked with him last night, and told him how lonely I am, and how I can't do this the rest of my life. Suggested counseling, a break, whatever he thinks he needs. He says he doesn't know what he needs or if he can even change. I told him that if we can't fix this, we will break up, and I'd rather break up before things get terrible and we resent each other, so we can truly co parent our daughter.
But I'm heart broken. We both love each other so much, but that's not enough. I cried, he cried. And now I've got to go to work with such a heavy heart. I just wanna curl up and cease to exist for a little while.
My bf and I are having problems. He's a hard worker, which I absolutely love and admire of him. And I really do appreciate of him. But he can't stop working. When he's with us, his heads still at work. Well, less with our daughter, but almost always with me. hes had a hard month, changing jobs, his grandfather passing away, but this has just been getting worse for the last six months. I finally talked with him last night, and told him how lonely I am, and how I can't do this the rest of my life. Suggested counseling, a break, whatever he thinks he needs. He says he doesn't know what he needs or if he can even change. I told him that if we can't fix this, we will break up, and I'd rather break up before things get terrible and we resent each other, so we can truly co parent our daughter.
But I'm heart broken. We both love each other so much, but that's not enough. I cried, he cried. And now I've got to go to work with such a heavy heart. I just wanna curl up and cease to exist for a little while.
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I'm not looking to leave him any time soon. But I wanted to stress that this is a deal breaker for me if we can't fix it. I know fixing stuff isn't easy or quick, not if you want a real fix. Its just breaking my heart to not be able to make him happy, and that I even had to have that talk with him. I am super proud of him and I do appreciate what he does. I'm going to look at marriage counselors tonight that meet both our budget restrictions as well as our time, since he just started a new job, and won't want to miss work.
Thank you guys again. My heart doesnt feel as heavy.
I know id feel better if I ate something but when im upset, I have zero appetite and everything sounds/smells/tastes disgusting.