Now He Has Doubts!!
I don't get it. One minute he's a little excited about having a baby then all of a sudden. "It cost $50,000 dollars to raise a baby from newborn to 18yrs old." "We're not ready." "We're not financially ready." "Its not gonna work out." "We don't make enough." "How are we gonna take care of a baby?" "What are we going to do?" He even suggested the "A" word.
I don't know where the doubt came from. It just came out of the blue to me.
Now because I don't share the same doubt as him. He's all mad. Saying we need to talk but he's not saying anything. Just long pauses. So I get back on my tablet. Then he huffs and puffs. I understand everything he is saying, but I just don't feel the same. So now he left the room to sleep in another room. I right now could really care less.
I tried explaining my reasons as to why I don't have as much doubt as him, but he didn't want to hear it. So... Its whatever at the moment.
I don't know where the doubt came from. It just came out of the blue to me.
Now because I don't share the same doubt as him. He's all mad. Saying we need to talk but he's not saying anything. Just long pauses. So I get back on my tablet. Then he huffs and puffs. I understand everything he is saying, but I just don't feel the same. So now he left the room to sleep in another room. I right now could really care less.
I tried explaining my reasons as to why I don't have as much doubt as him, but he didn't want to hear it. So... Its whatever at the moment.
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I just don't get how the switch flipped so quick. Then bringing up the "A" word and I forgot to mention "Well you're period is only 4 days late, you still have time for her to come." My period last 6 days. What the hell?
Who is this person?
Goodluck girl♡♥ I hope things work out. And keep us updated.
This is something you've wanted for so long, and its time to finally enjoy it. Take it easy, and don't let it get to you.
If he keeps on I am gonna put my foot down and if that doesn't stop him. I guess I'm going to be a single parent.
First it takes more than 50, 000, but tell him to divide that by 18 its less than 3, 000 a year. For us the first year was the hardest bc of the pay cut, and the added expense. If you bf you the biggest Everyday expense is diapers.
I have calmed down and so has he, but he is still on the money kick. I tried telling him about the money and dividing it. It wasn't clicking with him. I even told him we could try for WIC, which he doesn't even know what that is and when I tried to explain it was kind of like government assistance for babies, he thought I was lying.
He goes on to say I'm irresponsible, because I was late paying my cellphone bill. He was talking about it seems like he's the only one doing stuff, he's talking about its gonna be one-sided, because he makes the most money out of the both of us. He's making it seem like I'm the selfish one and irresponsible one.
He even brought up custody and child support. Saying if I don't start saving up by the time the baby comes he's suing me for custody and child support. I almost snapped.
I told him you would never get the child just because you make more money than me. You're the one who is not ready. You're the selfish one. When things don't go your way you're ready to threw a bitch fit. When people don't listen to him he gets mad and goes all in his silent treatment ignoring people. Oh wow I missed a payment on my cellphone bill. I'm soooo irresponsible.
Things aren't looking up.
Umm, I don't know your whole relationship story so I am probably wrong but are you sure all of this is over the baby?
He doesn't want to leave me and its more about money. We talked it out. He says he doesn't want us to struggle. He apologized about the abortion and period comment. I'm still pissed off at him.
He still trying to save face right now, apologizing for everything, and he's now thinking of ways we won't struggle. I will admit it is kind of funny how he went from a dick to apologizing like crazy. He even googled WIC and thought about applying for LINK. Which I already did.
I'm still ticked off and I'm not letting this go. And it's fun watching him gravel. I think I'll let him gravel for a while before I accept his apology.
The custody and child support comment really pissed me and he knew it and that's when the apologies and explanations came in.
I don't get men though. Do they not think we are scared just like them.