has this conversation ever come up??
So late last night I was having those night chats with the hubby and the sexual part came up (Pun not intended) and he asked me if I would ever be down for a 3 sum. And I was like HELL NO!! If I get pist when another women looks at him. So then he said what about you with a girl and I watch. And again I said NO! But it made me think. If im not open minded would he get bored?
Have any of you this covo with your hubby?
Should I consider it?
Have any of you this covo with your hubby?
Should I consider it?
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Thats what I think!
Idk I hope he doesn't @captivated
@captivated
With my fiance, it's just different. I've never trusted someone as much as him. We have so much freedom in our relationship. He doesn't get jealous of ANYTHING. If I say I'm going to go hang out with a girlfriend and go to the bar (very very rare, I don't like going out), he just says "okay, have fun babe." He doesn't call once, nothing. I am allowed to date women if I want, so long as it doesn't affect our relationship- such as never being home and spending all my time with someone else. I was very jealous even in the beginning of our relationship, paranoid that he would cheat and leave. The trust built immensely between us and my view on life changed as I "grew up". I personally do not think humans are meant for monogamy. I'm not saying they CANT, I'm saying it is a difficult choice to make and many fail.
Our open relationship started when I realized how often we had sex. Literally 3-5 times a day, even after years of being together. I asked him what we would do when he or me (back when I was active) deployed. That could he REALLY go that long without it? Especially when they are hitting ports, going to strip clubs, getting wasted and hadn't had sex in months? Just didn't seem logical to me. He guaranteed me he would be "fine" and that he would never want to lose me and mess up like that. I rolled my eyes and told him that it was ME that thought there's no way I can go that long. LOL. This is when we made a deal that during deployment, if something happens with someone else, it's fine. There are rules set in place though. No relationships, etc. I trust him and trust that he wouldn't develop a relationship with someone on deployment. Sometimes I worry, but I know that he loves me and he will be coming home to me
Plus, good luck with him finding a girl as open as I am! :-))
Sometimes things go wrong even when you're being safe.
And out of the 15 women I have slept with, never had an STD. Dental dams are a must if doing a hit and run